UPDATE: I used the word tribe in this post unthinkingly. I do not believe it is appropriate to use.
Some thoughts by friends recently have made me think about all the articles that advise you to “find your tribe”. It’s almost like there’s no tomorrow if you don’t have your tribe around you, right this very moment.
Being a person who has always felt niche-less and has worked (and lived) in a lot of different places, I don’t have trouble meeting new people, but I don’t feel like I have a tribe.
Maybe for me, my years of training in participant observation allows me to just learn or choose what I see as most valuable from people (or groups) and ignore the rest?
Now, this is different from using people. It’s an active choice to take in only what motivates you.
I’m currently reading Quiet by Susan Cain and that has me thinking that this tribelessness and selective friendship way of being is something that just suits introverts. Which makes sense in the reverse too – of course it would be extroverts that want or need a tribe around them, it’s how they replenish themselves.
Have you found your tribe? What do you think about the need to have people like you?