Vlogging, Podcasting, Speaking, and Image

Vlogging, Podcasting, Speaking, and Image

You probably know that I’m writing a book called Fuck Should. But that doesn’t mean that I’m an expert in not feeling shoulds. Especially seemingly small ones.


Vlogging, Podcasting, Speaking, and Image


Vlogging, Podcasting, Speaking, and Image


In fact I’m great at making up shoulds, usually unintentionally, and then believing in them. I’ve had a few with regards to showing my face online, which I decided it was time to share. 


For a long time, I debated if I wanted to go down the podcast route or the vlogging route. I thought it was odd that (generally speaking) podcasting was something you had to pay for hosting for, and vlogging had free hosting. I wanted to go with free. It’s too easy to spend money on recurring fees as a blogger.



But wait! I couldn’t vlog. I don’t wear makeup. I don’t own it. I wouldn’t know what to do with it if you gave it to me. I don’t care to learn. 99% of the time, I don’t think it looks good (but if you like it, go for it). 


I got over that issue with vlogging. By doing. I started filming myself talking about random things.



I spoke at my old uni, in front of students at alumni events, as well as giving advice to other students on camera. I was told that I was comfortable and looked natural on camera, even though I can assure that I did not feel it! 


Even after getting over myself enough to vlog and speak at universities, I’ve convinced myself I can’t do “real” speaking. Aka speaking I’d get paid for.


Because I don’t look the part. I can’t walk in heels. I don’t wear makeup. I don’t think I’ve owned a dress in at least a decade.


And Then

A few weeks ago, I suddenly felt better about speaking being in my future. Because a fellow friend, blogger, and activist spoke wearing pyjamas:


If Carly can speak on stage in pyjamas, I can speak on stage dressed in whatever I am comfortable in too. I don’t know what it is right now, but I think I will find it in the future. I feel empowered by this to find what my comfort level is. And to do things I have so far chickened out of this year – like pitching myself to speak at events.


Never underestimate the impact that sharing on social media has – this one photo meant a lot to me in moving past a “should” in my head.


Have you ever held back at something because of perceived norms about an image you “have” to present?


11 Replies to “Vlogging, Podcasting, Speaking, and Image”

  1. Yep…too often. At conferences, I’m convinced that no one will want to connect with me because I’m short, fat & boring. Then I convince myself that I’m forgettable & will have to reintroduce myself each time. So I find reasons not to go.

    1. It’s so weird, the things we think. But conferences are hard too. xox

  2. Totally! As a fellow non-make up wearer, I say more power to you! Who cares if you’re not wearing make up or not *gasp* wearing a dress or heels. That doesn’t make what you have to say any less important or interesting.

    1. That’s true. I guess I feel like unless I have “the image”, I’d get passed over. But then again, if people are going to pass me over for that, they are probably not “my” people!

  3. Funnily enough, just last night I was interviewed and chose not to wear makeup – a first. I’m sure no one will notice other than me. 🙂 I’ve never tried vlogging. While I’ comfortable being on camera if someone else is interviewing, the thought of filming myself seems foreign. I suppose, like you, I would get used to it if I tried!

    1. For me it was actually pretty easy to get used to, but we really all do have such different comfort levels with these things!

  4. If you’re a public speaker, I’m more interested in what you’ve got to say, than how you look. Remember you are you-nique, just as you are! I can’t help but think I bet male speakers don’t have to worry about heels and make up! Just sayin’! Here’s to pitching – as Barack would say, yes you can!

    1. I often think that guys don’t “have” to put as much thought into these things. Thanks for reminding me 🙂

  5. Interesting. I have mostly been confident about public speaking (comes with the teaching role I guess) but I have never liked seeing myself (and sometimes hearing myself) because I have been VERY overweight when doing this. I have the photographs and for me, “I” detracted from my message. No-one else may have, so “I” am working on this matter of self-like…no matter what size. Still hard. I had someone who has only known me as I look now ask “how come?” and seriously, I felt embarrassed at having to respond. Sigh.

    Thanks for linking up for #lifethisweek. Next week’s optional prompt is Summer Means This. Denyse

    1. Interesting thoughts – thank you for sharing. I wonder if that is what I am thinking too – that if I’m not the entire (someone else’s) image of perfect, that it detracts.

  6. And thanks for sharing… Denyse #teamIBOT

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