It hurts to ignore things. It hurts to share things. Activism feels too much like yelling at people to “just get it”. People get it when they get it and you cannot control that. Yelling doesn’t fix it. Demanding people prove they are an activist by x or y behaviour only doesn’t help. Muting people […]
Self Development
Why You Shouldn’t Become A Morning Person
It seems like the internet is always telling everyone to wake up early. That’s the only way there are hours in the day (apparently) and if you sleep in, you’re not hustling and will fail. Etc. I’m sure there are more and less dramatic ways of putting it, but overall I’m a bit tired of […]
You Know You Best
The thing about advice is that it has to come from someone who trusts you. Not always someone who knows you. You Know You Best For example, years ago in an old job, I had a review at work. It was noted that I have excellent customer service skills. It was noted […]
Fuck It, Why Not?
My phrase of the year is “Fuck it, why not?” Until I get bored & change it, obviously. I have had a kinda lousy break. Or “holiday”. You can see me breaking in frustration about it here. (I’m feeling much better since venting in a few places.) Fuck It, Why Not? […]
Vlogging, Podcasting, Speaking, and Image
You probably know that I’m writing a book called Fuck Should. But that doesn’t mean that I’m an expert in not feeling shoulds. Especially seemingly small ones. Vlogging, Podcasting, Speaking, and Image In fact I’m great at making up shoulds, usually unintentionally, and then believing in them. I’ve had a few with […]
How To Recognise Your Thought Patterns
Originally published on Kiki and Tea, May 21st, 2015 Have you ever had to recognise your thought patterns to weed out unhelpful ones? I have. And it wasn’t easy. One of the original taglines for my blog was “a journey towards positive thinking and weight loss”. In fact, my first posts were just […]
It’s Good Enough For Me Right Now
I’m struggling to define what I want out of my career. And where my career even is. I’ve written before about how I miss being a subject matter expert. I have days when I wish for a job that will challenge me again. It makes me feel, on the surface, ungrateful for my job […]
Finding The Comfort Zone Sweet Spot
There are a million gazillion images on the internet about comfort zones and getting outside of them. After all, that’s where the magic happens, right? Finding The Comfort Zone Sweet Spot To a certain degree, I think the catch-phrase worthy phrases are true. Some things do get a better outcome if you get […]
Boredom Isn’t Glamorous
“They” say we’re too connected these days. Too scheduled. Too busy. Downtime doesn’t exist. It’s faux pas to say you did nothing on the weekend. Boredom Isn’t Glamorous I took a 6 day weekend over the Easter long weekend. I had all the ideas about all the things I could have done. […]
One Thing I Wish I Could Teach You
I saw this on Twitter and as someone who struggles to a) manage shiny object syndrome and b) tell you what I want (what I really really want, zigazig ah) …this was a great, simple question. If you can’t read it, the question a teacher asked was: “If I let you teach my students […]