Defining My Lifestyle

Defining My Lifestyle

I posted a few days ago about my conundrum about combining my blogs. I have a few ideas mulling wildly around in my head and I would like to thank everyone who replied – you all gave such thoughtful & considerate responses. I love the blogging community!


Of course, once you start thinking about things in the long term for one area of your life, it spreads to other areas of your life. On the weekend we were out for a little bit of a drive in our local area & I was trying to talk about all the variants of things that had happened in the past few weeks (online and offline) and random things that I had thought of in the past few weeks. My mind was overflowing.


There is this need we have to classify who we are. To define your lifestyle. And I think personal branding helps to both encompass and avoid that. When you are your name then you don’t need to add that dinner party descriptor on afterwards with your job title.


Defining My Lifestyle


What I want doesn’t fit the boundaries of what you’re “allowed” or “supposed” to have/want. There, I said it.   My best analogy of this is that you’re “supposed” to want the comfy house OR the travel lifestyle. Well, I’ve always wanted both. I’m not a sell-everything-go-around-the-world person, nor would I say that I hate the comforts of home. I would love a house with lots of spaces to work and play; I want a big studio-style space of my own.


I also doubt I’m the only person who feels this way, but we have no way to label ourselves to find others like us! The irony is killing me right about now.   I guess when you’re considering your wants and needs (and how you’ll get there), it’s less important to have a name for it and more important to know what it looks and feels like.


Do you ever feel like you don’t fit in the “supposed to” areas?


14 Replies to “Defining My Lifestyle”

  1. If you are combining your blogs just be prepared for a dive in statistics..I have just kissed some major analytics stats goodbye after doing a rebrand recently. I am now working hard to get back to normal by the new year. Defining labels is a hard one, especially since the blogging world likes labels and niches

    1. Yeah I was thinking about that – but very little traffic goes to any other site but this one so hopefully with a proper name redirect (if needed) I shouldn’t lose much.

  2. I must have missed the post about combining blogs! Sounds like you want the best of both worlds and there is nothing wrong with that. At least you know what you want. 🙂

    1. Vanessa Smith says: Reply

      I don’t know how I’ll get there quite yet, but the journey is half the fun, right?

  3. I totally get this. I have so much that encompasses my life and me and it is hard to define it all under one umbrella. But also, that’s the beauty too. 🙂

    1. Vanessa Smith says: Reply

      To me, life would just be so boring if it wasn’t this way 🙂

  4. Every, single day, hon. Every. day.

    1. Vanessa Smith says: Reply


  5. I can relate so much to this! Especially with the whole ‘so what do you do for a job’ when I don’t have one, and haven’t had one for about 8 years. It’s a pretty awkward conversation. I also still have no idea what I want to be when I grow up. In fact I often feel a bit like a fraud and can’t believe that I am 26 and have a 5 year old child!

    1. Vanessa Smith says: Reply

      People really love to ask that question, don’t they?! And I do a fairly wide range of things (even within the space of one week) when it comes to a day job, which makes me uncomfortable being defined by what I do.

  6. All the time hun. But I am totally ok with that… I think 😉 xx

    1. Vanessa Smith says: Reply

      Most of the time I’m pretty ok with it too 🙂

  7. Never really have fit in the ‘supposed to’ areas and probably never will. Took me a while to realise that the only thing I’m supposed to be is who I am. And I’m good with that.

  8. Living through the same thing! Sometimes I end up saying that when I grow up I would do this! lol and I am 25! Hopefully I will have a big house and achieve all my dreams!

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