#2015TheYearOfMe Challenge 10

What are your standards?

I took a bit of a break from #2015TheYearOfMe as April has been full of changes. And more may be coming, I don’t know! I usually post these on a Monday but yesterday was busy, so I figured late was better than never! 


But the good thing about #2015TheYearOfMe is that if it really is the year of me, I can do that!!


This week I’m having a kind of serious one.


What are your standards?


What are your standards?


You may prefer to think of this as:

  • What do you allow in your life?
  • Who do you allow in your life?
  • Why do you allow certain things in your life?


This is a very, very personal thing, so honestly, feel no obligation towards answers/replies/comments, but I think it’s important to visit & revisit these at regular intervals, and particularly through times of change.


12 Replies to “#2015TheYearOfMe Challenge 10”

  1. I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately. I recently had a week where I was barely coping with absolutely no energy for anything more than getting my girls to school and fed. Hubby was away at sea and I pretty much decided that anything else was a bonus. In my down time, it made me look closely at who and how I was spending my time.

    1. Vanessa Smith says: Reply

      Sometimes it’s only at our busiest that we realise these things.

  2. I had the chance to consider this as a bystander the past 2 days. My closest friend and one of her other friends had a big blow up because one didn’t turn up to the others baby’s naming day. It had been rocky for a bit but my friend decided to copy & paste the convo for me… Lucky me lol and both had good arguments but different standards and priorities. It made me grateful to keep a very small circle of close friends as I personally haven’t had this kind of drama in years. Argh… People lol hope your changes are bringing some positive opportunity with them.

    1. Vanessa Smith says: Reply

      Yes, I’ve made a choice to not speak to the people who love drama and it really gives you a more peaceful life.

  3. Ooh, how timely. I’ve been thinking about this very topic! I find it excruciatingly painful to say “no” or let someone down, but as the months go by and I grow older, I’m realising that it often comes at the cost of my own happiness, and that it’s really something that I need to work on. (Why do we feel so rude if we say “no”? Ugh!)

    1. Vanessa Smith says: Reply

      I’m usually pretty good with “no” but something happened recently where I felt like a pushover for not saying no. At least (I think) it’s pretty rare for me. I’m stubborn 😉

  4. I try to cut negative people from my life but sometimes that is really hard, especially if they are the parents of my daughters friends.

    1. Vanessa Smith says: Reply

      I imagine that would be a really hard one!

  5. Great questions. At different times in my life I’ve really had to ask myself about who I let into my life and why I let certain toxic people in my life. You’re right. It is deeply personal and hard to answer, but sometimes so necessary to do so. #teamIBOT

    1. Vanessa Smith says: Reply

      It’s hard to review, but sometimes necessary.

  6. Good but tough questions we need to ask. Funny how it’s usually only when we are feeling like we’ve let too much in, that we start looking at where the standards have slipped.

    1. Vanessa Smith says: Reply

      I think sometimes the only time you learn is when the slips happen. Maybe we all learn by practice!

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