As I sit down to write this weeks prompt for I Must Confess, I kind of must confess that I can only think of negative things to write about. And that sucks.
What I Wish I Really Said
I guess we all have the moments where we wished we had thought of the perfect thing to say in an argument, or to someone who has wronged you in some way. But I don’t want to rehash stuff, because I don’t believe in regrets. Sure, you might feel silly or awkward or wish you had been smooth, suave and snapped back the perfect reply…but I think being stuck in the rehashing mindset means you haven’t learned from it yet.
Somebody screwed you over? Don’t waste time thinking of the perfect reply. Think of how the situation got that way. We can’t control what others do and we can’t avoid every shitty situation in life, but what we can do is learn from it. Learn to trust your gut when it screams that someone is an asshole. Work out backup plans and how to extricate yourself from a situation easily and/or before it gets bad. You don’t have to grin and bear everything.
None of that is to say that a bit of a rant/whinge/daydream over having the perfect comeback is bad, I think it’s almost like a grieving process, but just don’t stay there.
Of course, this is all often easier said than done! I totally acknowledge that. But it’s something I’ve developed by accident over time. And I find it helps me to go beyond dream comebacks and on to avoiding it happening at all.
Do you spend ages thinking of snappy comebacks? Do you find it helps?