What does successful self care feel like? The thing is, it can still feel shit. There are many things I can’t write about my (semi) recent house move.
But I can say is that it was shitty shitty and very draining on both of us. While the outcome was great, a house move organised (both in packing and finances) in one week after being in a house over nine years… while working full time .. was too full on. I don’t like busy.
There were times when I couldn’t face the tasks we have to do so I tried to do other things just so that I wasn’t physically in the space I couldn’t handle seeing again.
Self Care Isn’t A Magic Pill
I guess you’d call lots of it self care.
- Calling in the cavalry
- Getting support from friends and family
- Being kind to myself
All the self care tick boxes were ticked.
And yet I spent weeks feeling like shit.
So what does self care do?
It doesn’t make you a bundle of joy. It “merely” helps you cope a little bit more.
I wasn’t happy. I was frustrated, angry and tired.
But I did keep going. It all got done. We moved.
When The Flu Hits
In a more recent example, this weekend just gone was Brisbane WordCamp. My only attempt at a conference this year. Naturally on Friday when I was at the doctors clinic, my GP agreed that I have a flu. Summer flu, to be exact.
I am not only learning about self care but actually enforcing it. On Saturday I went for the morning of the conference. Found someone I knew from a Facebook group at lunch, got to meet them in person, then went home.
There were some sessions I wanted to see but they would be recorded so I will watch them when they are published. I missed the networking event entirely. Not really ideal for someone who has networking as a goal.
I slept Saturday afternoon. I know many people probably do, but I only nap when I’m sick. So it’s a big deal if I sleep during the day.
And then I slept all night too. Clearly my body was begging for it. Which makes sense given all these smarty pants doctors tell us that rest helps viruses. Ugh. Who wants logical, sensible advice?!
On Sunday I took it easy. I only left home after midday to head into the conference for the second day.