Irrational Thoughts Are Stupid

As you may know, I’ve had a bit of a shit time in recent months. That happens. The part that is hardest is that while I’ve dropped a LOT of things (like blogging, thanks to those who have checked in, I am ok, it’s just literally an energy thing) I’ve reached a point where I can’t find anything else to drop.

 

Irrational Thoughts Are Stupid

 

Irrational Thoughts Are Stupid

 

The shittiest part is that I found out I was low on iron just after the point of no return for dropping out of uni. Which is why I am struggling on. Big keyword of struggling there. I maybe could have dropped out and fought a bureaucratic system for a refund and then taken the subjects again next year, but that would feel like things were hanging over me. And I don’t want that.

 

Powering on through is what I’m doing. But I have no power.

 

I get home from work and all I can do is sit. It physically hurts for me to go shower and get ready for bed, because my muscles have had enough. They have nothing left to give. Now, it is improving. Before I was diagnosed I was like that by lunch time each day.

 

I have to work full time. That pays for that pesky roof and food and iron pills.

 

So therefore I have to study after work or on weekends. After work clearly isn’t working.

 

Weekends; well I need full days of rest to recover/prepare for the work days. I manage to open my uni notes on Sunday and then I cried at them. Even with a list of where to begin, my brain couldn’t absorb anything.

 

My study skills are fine. I can write research essays in my sleep. I just have no power to do these things.

 

Yesterday, I applied for more extensions on my assignments. I really, really did not want to. It feels like uni is hanging over me. I want it done. I don’t want to push out deadlines. But it’s the logical thing to do.

 

Which is where the irrational comes in.

 

I have another uni related issue that is a bit too complicated to talk about here, so I sent an email to the uni counselling service to see if they can offer advice/strategy/tips on other departments in the uni to help me handle it. But the soonest they can get me in (aka Skype) is on Thursday. Bummer. I wanted to talk to them BEFORE I put in my extension requests. For no logical reason. I thought I needed justification? I don’t know. They have online drop in sessions on skype, and I planned my lunch break around it. But I forgot that QLD is stupid and doesn’t have daylight savings so I missed the session.

 

I have an assignment due on Sunday, so I couldn’t just wait to apply for an extension. I had a letter from my doctor for this exact purpose. And yet I felt unable to. My heart rate increased. Now that I had learned the hard lesson about daylight savings I picked a time to submit it towards the end of their working day, becuase… I don’t know? I didn’t want to apply and get rejected in the same day? I doubt they can even reject claims that come with medical evidence.

 

WHY? Why why why? There is a fucking blood test on my office desk that is clear as day that I am not well. LITERALLY IN BLACK AND WHITE. For fuck’s sake, brain! And a literal piece of paper from my doctor telling the university that he supports my request for more time. SO WHY WAS IT SO HARD?

 

 

 

I have some wise friends though:  

 


It’s funny, part of what I really want to cover with Side Gig Life is my dislike of the hustle start up culture. I think it’s wildly unhealthy. But what Caz said made me think; I guess I have some subconscious, or at the very least, socially engrained, thoughts about “getting stuff done”.

 

TL;DR: Brains suck sometimes. Irrational thoughts are stupid. I don’t know if you’re supposed to call your own brain stupid, but I am calling it stupid in this instance.

 

There’s another online drop in session tonight, so I can hopefully begin to address the other issue I have that isn’t helping me deal with this.

 

Is your brain irrational?? How do you stop it?

 

 

I did hit submit in the end, for both of my subjects. I got a fast reply to one, ironically the subject I am least stressed about. Two week extension (even though I only asked for a week).

Vanessa Smith

15 Comments

  1. Jesus christ, our stupid minds are our own worst fucking enemy. Here is my advice: feel free to out your brain on ignore. Take the extension. And take care x

  2. Sorry you’re struggling! I worry irrationally about similar things. I say tell your brain to STFU and take the extension because shit happens and it takes a strong person to say “I need help” xoxo

  3. Oh my brain things irrational things all of the time. And I know they don’t make sense, or I know where they’re coming from, but they pop into my head anyway and I often can’t get rid of them!

  4. Life lessons from Frozen – “let it go.” Sometimes you just have to give yourself a break, especially if it’s endorsed from your GP. When my brain turns in on me, I like to turn it around and think what I’d do or say if someone else was in the same scenario. Taking the extension is a sign of strength, not weakness, because you’re doing what’s right for you. Here’s to getting your superpowers back x

  5. When you are physically unwell, it affects other parts of you. This is obviously what is happening and I would only say that your brain is doing what it does not to harm or hurt you. It is just doing its thing. I HOPE that very soon, there is an improvement for you in terms of your health and that you turn the corner.

    • When I was first telling my GP that around lunch time each day I couldn’t do much but blankly stare at my screen at work for the rest of the day he was like “well of course, you have no energy, including your brain”. I am improving, it just takes me a long time, based on other times this has happened!

    • So annoying! Everywhere else can do it without the world ending, why can’t we?

  6. I think perhaps you need to spend some of the little time you have on something that makes you truly happy and feeds your energy rather than sapping it. I’m not suggesting a woowoo approach to a diagnosed issue, but I think you could be easier on your heart and mind while your body heals.

    • That’s a good point. I have been avoiding things like books I really want to read because I “can’t” do anything fun until after uni is over. Thanks for the suggestion 🙂

  7. Oh Shit Ness. Enough now. Set that brain straight and allow why life has dealt you at this time and work with that. You are still going to achieve what you need – just at a different time. Does that really matter???????????????

    • In the long run, nope, extensions don’t matter. I guess I’m so tired I want to have more time to rest so I keep thinking “Oh, when uni is over, I can have all the rest I want so RUSH UNI!”

  8. My brain loves a little irrational thought and needless fretting over stupid things from time to time. Usually when I’m trying to go to sleep. I’ve not yet worked out how to stop it effectively but will give you a shout when I know.

  9. Yep, I hear you on the stupid. I think we all have that part in our brains. Take care of yourself Vanessa, you can only do what you can do and calling on that (like with extensions) is the smart part of your brain creeping in.

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