The thing about advice is that it has to come from someone who trusts you. Not always someone who knows you.
You Know You Best
For example, years ago in an old job, I had a review at work. It was noted that I have excellent customer service skills. It was noted particularly around the way I managed someone who was trying to bully their way into something they weren’t invited to be a part of. This is true. I *can* manage customer service well.
But I don’t *want* to. Being face to face, or high volume calls; that drains the living daylights out of me. I can’t people that much AND be happy outside of work. And while I believe that doing a good job at work is important, to me it’s more important that I am in a good state for my non work life.
I’ve seen a lot of bad advice recently. People trying to twist things to their viewpoint. For example, if I said to someone “Oh I don’t want a customer facing position, it’s not for me”, it would be twisted to be me lacking confidence or skills, or being blamed on fear.
I’m tired of that attitude.
That’s why you need to take advice from someone who trusts you – so that if you say “X isn’t for me” they trust that you know yourself, and move on to a better topic, or a different option.
Of course here I’m using the example of a job, but this can be applied to whatever it is you’re seeking advice on.
Do you get advice from people who trust you?