A comment I just posted over on Emily Hawker’s blog has made me think. Well, the blog post made me think too, obviously, if I commented on it.
What do you really want? Out of life? Out of work? Out of free time?
And how often do you realise that you need to review this? What I want now may not be the same as what I wanted six months ago. Or five years ago.
I recently made the decision to let something go. Something I was convinced would work for me. Only now, in hindsight, I see that it was totally wrong for me. Isn’t hindsight wonderful?
I’ve read a little bit about personal retreats recently, how many business leaders take time out in seclusion to think about themselves. It was self care before it became a buzzword. They got to be alone. They were able to think about themselves. To relax. To see the future of their businesses.
And that’s what’s so great about self care. When you feel good, it’s easier to help others. I think there is still a perception that self care is selfish. But I just don’t see how it can be. It’s the same as people who have high financial goals not only for their own freedom, but so they can fund things like scholarships.
Too often I think we think too big. I think a large impact of this is mainstream media; stories keep having to get bigger, more sensational. More removed from everyday lives.
There’s a scene from one of my favourite episodes of Stargate Atlantis (Brain Storm) that I feel applies here (transcript source here):
KELLER: You know, my Uncle George – he always hated the phrase “save the planet.”
KELLER: Well, he just thought it was a little backwards, you know, ‘cause the planet’s gonna be here no matter what happens. It might be a giant unliveable rock but it’s gonna survive.
KRAMER: So you’re turning this into a discussion on semantics?!
KELLER: What I mean is, Mr Kramer, the work you’re doing isn’t about saving the planet – it’s about saving lives, and that’s a noble pursuit, trying to save billions of people. But it’s no less noble to save a hundred. These guys, no matter how smart they are, they could use some help. One phone call could get that help here. Now, please – please let me make that call.
The key message:
the work you’re doing isn’t about saving the planet – it’s about saving lives, and that’s a noble pursuit, trying to save billions of people. But it’s no less noble to save a hundred
And how it applies to us all:
It’s no less noble to take care of yourself than it is to take care of others.
So how often do you take the time for some self care and think, “What do I really want?”