You might be aware that earlier this year I released a book called Fuck Should. I also released a fuck-free version called Llama Should, for those who want less fucks. Why I Wrote Fuck Should I’ve gotten a lot of advice over the years. Some good. Some thoughtful. Other bits of advice […]
Self Development
Fatigue Is So Damn Boring
A month ago I was diagnosed with Vitamin D deficiency. I had the muscle fatigue as the main symptom, but what’s bothering me now is how tiring it is. I’m bored. Fatigue Is So Damn Boring The problem is, I can’t do much. I can’t concentrate, I’m not really interested in books or […]
Positives of Exhaustion
To be honest, I’d probably be super pissed if I saw this being written, so bear with me if you’re also feeling pissed at this title. Positives of Exhaustion My current super fun exhaustion is vitamin d deficiency. Muscle pain is so great. When I have a day where I hit about 9000 […]
It Hurts
It hurts to ignore things. It hurts to share things. Activism feels too much like yelling at people to “just get it”. People get it when they get it and you cannot control that. Yelling doesn’t fix it. Demanding people prove they are an activist by x or y behaviour only doesn’t help. Muting people […]
Why You Shouldn’t Become A Morning Person

It seems like the internet is always telling everyone to wake up early. That’s the only way there are hours in the day (apparently) and if you sleep in, you’re not hustling and will fail. Etc. I’m sure there are more and less dramatic ways of putting it, but overall I’m a bit tired of […]
You Know You Best

The thing about advice is that it has to come from someone who trusts you. Not always someone who knows you. You Know You Best For example, years ago in an old job, I had a review at work. It was noted that I have excellent customer service skills. It was noted […]
Fuck It, Why Not?

My phrase of the year is “Fuck it, why not?” Until I get bored & change it, obviously. I have had a kinda lousy break. Or “holiday”. You can see me breaking in frustration about it here. (I’m feeling much better since venting in a few places.) Fuck It, Why Not? […]
How To Recognise Your Thought Patterns
Originally published on Kiki and Tea, May 21st, 2015 Have you ever had to recognise your thought patterns to weed out unhelpful ones? I have. And it wasn’t easy. One of the original taglines for my blog was “a journey towards positive thinking and weight loss”. In fact, my first posts were just […]
It’s Good Enough For Me Right Now

I’m struggling to define what I want out of my career. And where my career even is. I’ve written before about how I miss being a subject matter expert. I have days when I wish for a job that will challenge me again. It makes me feel, on the surface, ungrateful for my job […]
Finding The Comfort Zone Sweet Spot

There are a million gazillion images on the internet about comfort zones and getting outside of them. After all, that’s where the magic happens, right? Finding The Comfort Zone Sweet Spot To a certain degree, I think the catch-phrase worthy phrases are true. Some things do get a better outcome if you get […]